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Thanks, Coach, for Saying That!
by Mike Woitalla, November 27th, 2013 5:53PM

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TAGS:  college women, u.s. club soccer, u.s. youth soccer, under-20 women's world cup, youth boys, youth girls

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By Mike Woitalla

In the spirit of the holiday, I give thanks to some of the coaches who have during the last year shared insight I believe valuable to coaches and parents. Happy Thanksgiving!

“When we coach we’re apt to constantly refer to our experiences as players, and how we were coached. The mistake a lot of coaches make -- especially young coaches I’ve seen -- is thinking, this is the way I was coached, so this is the way I’m going to coach this team. As opposed to looking at your group and thinking, ‘Here’s what we have here. Here’s what’s important to them. How can I draw on those things and try to get out of my preconceived notions?' … I think every team is different. Boys, girls, age levels -- and the coach’s job is -- and that’s what makes it fun -- is trying to figure it out.”
-- Steve Swanson, head coach of the University of Virginia and the USA's 2012 U-20 Women’s World Cup-winning team.

“Sometimes you put your strongest player on the bench just to let others shine. Or you put a right-footed player who can't do anything with his left on the left side and force him to use his left foot. Of course in that game you will probably lose because you don't use your strongest players in their strongest position, but in the end you have a player who used his left foot when he was 12 and 13 and 14, and he can use both feet when he comes into the first team. That's what we have at Ajax and I really stand behind that."
-- Dennis Bergkamp.

“Parents are always asking me, ‘Can you watch my boy play? Do you think he can go pro? Do you think he can get a scholarship?’ … They should be more concerned that their children are having fun.”
-- Jorge Campos.

“The parents end up being the first ones the kids talk to when they get into the car. And the parents’ perception of what happened is huge for the kid in the backseat. … You need to be 100 percent supportive of your child when they get into the car. Don’t try to give them an analysis. Just let them talk if they feel like it and hear them.”
-- Jeff Baicher, De Anza Force Director of Coaching.

“Don’t force them. If they enjoy it, support them. My son doesn’t like soccer. He likes music. Support them in whatever they like.”
-- Claudio Suarez.

“There's got to be a cultural change from parents hovering over the kids and trying to prevent them from making mistakes, wanting to do what they think is best for them by giving them instructions, pointing out obvious solutions that they can see, to help their kids be successful. … It's like giving a child a puzzle and telling them where to put the pieces because you don't want them to make mistakes. When really what children do by trying different pieces of the puzzle, they learn how to put together a puzzle.”
-- Scott Gimple, AYSO Director of Development.

“We all know that in the learning process, missteps or mistakes are the beginning foundation of building the stepping stones of developing.”
-- Dave Chesler, U.S. Soccer Director of Coaching Education.

“It’s the technique, the technique, the technique, the technique … I’ve been to so many states here and all the parents are so concerned about is winning, winning, winning. Winning is irrelevant when you’re 11 or 12 years old. It really is it. … At youth tournaments, I look at the technical ability of the players. Whether the team wins or loses -- I don’t care.”
-- Brad Friedel.

“When you’ve raised kids you know you have to be patient and continue to teach them. Some young coaches come in and they’ll explain something once and they’re frustrated that it’s not picked up. Well, if you’ve had kids then you know you’ve probably told them 700 times they have to put their shoes back in their room, and don’t leave them in the living room, before it finally clicks in. That’s parenting and teaching and coaching.”
-- Bob Montgomery, New York Red Bulls' Director of Youth Programs .

“Encourage young players to dribble and take defenders on in appropriate situations, rather than demanding they immediately pass every time they receive the ball -- we have a culture of criticizing kids that 'overdribble' and labeling them as selfish players, yet we bemoan the fact that we aren’t developing creative playmakers and attacking players.”
-- Tim Holt, USL President.

“One, to give the players confidence. Second, not to put them down when they make a mistake. Third, at those ages you don’t coach, you need to teach. And you need to teach in a positive way and encourage players to be creative. Not to be robots, but to be creative. At the youth level, we need to think about our kids first, and put ourselves second.”
-- Hugo Perez, U.S. Soccer Youth Technical Advisor, on being asked for advice for coaches at the youngest ages.

(Mike Woitalla, the executive editor of Soccer America, is co-author, with Tim Mulqueen, of The Complete Soccer Goalkeeper and co-author with Claudio Reyna of More Than Goals: The Journey from Backyard Games to World Cup Competition. Woitalla's youth soccer articles are archived at YouthSoccerFun.com.)

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4 comments
  1. John Valenti
    commented on: November 28, 2013 at 10:07 a.m.
    I agree with most of what has been written, especially Brad Friedel. I watch my 12 year old and could care less about winning or loosing. I watch to see if he turns the ball over or beats a defender, who his first touch was, did he connect on his passing, how he defends. I point out his positives and give pointers on somethings he could have done better. I mostly try to keep it positive. However, I wonder if some of you are contributing to the culture that everyone gets a trophy. I think it is okay to encourage kids to win. There has to be a BALANCE and as the coach you have to know the balance. No your son/daughter isn't going pro or may not get a scholarship, so that U11 championship game maybe the pinnacle of their playing career. Don't steel that moment from them because your trying to be to much of a teacher. I wonder if we are creating a real WALL:E Disney movie with our youth.

  1. Kevin Sims
    commented on: November 28, 2013 at 10:10 a.m.
    Wonderful collection of wisdom!

  1. Brian Something
    commented on: November 28, 2013 at 10:21 a.m.
    John Valenti: I think you worry unnecessarily. I've found the concern you mention to be highly overstated. Adults caring more about the result of the game than the players is a far greater problem in youth soccer. I've coached for 13 years. I've had some players quit after a year or two because they realized it wasn't for them. I've had kids get scholarships for soccer and even had one play in the College Cup. I do expect my players to play hard. Why bother doing something if you're not going to try? But I also realize, and they do as well, that they're not trying to cure cancer out there. As a coach, you know which are your players are hard core about soccer and which ones are just in it to have fun or be with friends. Kids care about the trophy they win for about 3 minutes. It doesn't motivate them. It doesn't satisfy them. The love of the game is what does both.

  1. James Madison
    commented on: November 28, 2013 at 10:39 p.m.
    Gold, pure gold!! We supposedly have been trying to develop dribblers for the past 15 years, but I still do not see one on the Men's National Team. And the first touch issue is almost as challenging.


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