Growing pains: Girls face challenge of the 'commotional' years

By Mike Woitalla

Age-appropriate coaching has been cited as extremely important in player development. The Youth Soccer Insider begins a series on this topic with a look at the challenges faced by female players as they transition into their teen years by checking in with Tad Bobak, one of the most experienced and successful girls coaches in American youth soccer.

Bobak, who served almost three years as U.S. U-15 girls national team coach, is currently in his fifth cycle of coaching a team from U-11 to U-18 at the So Cal Blues, an all-girls club in the soccer hotbed of Southern California. Bobak is also co-director of the Blues, which have won four U.S. Youth Soccer national titles and sent scores of players to the higher levels.

“These are very sensitive topics, because, to me, boys’ growth is different than girls',” says Bobak. “We’re talking about the mental and physical.”

Bobak defines the physical part as speed and strength.

“If they’re fortunate to keep the speed they had when they were young, that’s already a big success,” he says of girls moving into their teens. “In many cases, that speed does not move up through the years the way it does with guys. Many times the speed of females drops through the years, unlike guys.

“The physical strength of a player can increase through the years as the body evolves and gets more mature, but it can also decrease.”

The physical changes happen at different times for different girls, but in general, says Bobak, “Everything kind of comes together at about 14. It’s a very emotional process from 11, 12 and 13. Those are very commotional years on the soccer field, especially here in the States where there’s so much screaming, so much competition, so much [focus on] winning and so much hype wound up.

“It’s a storm and I feel for these kids to go through such pressures. Year in and year out, I see that continuously on the soccer field and it’s not a healthy arena for the girls because there’s so much pressure on them in competitive club soccer.

“If they are able to survive that and things are kind of kept in healthy way, then at 14 I kind of want to see them perform their best.”

But girls often struggle as their bodies change and Bobak has seen players who were dominant in their pre-teen years no longer make the impact on the game that they used to. The ones who manage to come through the difficult transition period are those who have a solid skill base and a high level of mental aggressiveness and competitiveness in them.

“If a player body-wise is light in her frame and gets knocked around a lot, but she still puts herself into 50-50 situations, even though she ends up on the ground, because she has aggressiveness – that player, when her body fills out, regains her productivity,” he says.

“But if from the beginning she’s a more passive player mentally, and she gets knocked around, the confidence level drops a lot where many times it cannot be regained.”

Bobak says that he’s come to the conclusion that mental aggressiveness can’t be taught.

“Thirty years ago, I found the girls needed to be more mentally aggressive in this competitive arena, so I used to work out drills where there’s a lot of 50-50 battles, a lot of physical confrontations, to bring out mental aggressiveness in the players,” he says. “I believed that I could extract that mental aggressiveness. But I found out in this 30-year process that I can’t draw mental aggressiveness if they don’t have that makeup.

“Now the ones who have it, I notice what I’m doing is I’m polishing what they have. But if they’re not able to have that aggressiveness, I’m not able to bring it out. I can’t polish something that doesn’t exist. I haven’t seen anything out there to bring it out.

“I can only keep aggressiveness going in a positive direction in the ones who have it.”

SKILL BASE IS KEY. Players who are technically sound can persevere when their athleticism lags.

“The key thing is the skill base,” Bobak says. “If they have good body form when they pass the ball, when they collect the ball, when they dribble the ball, when they shoot the ball – it might get shaky a bit during those tumultuous years but when everything catches up, when their bodies fill out – they regain in their impactfulness. The base is still there and that base can even be shined.

“But if the base is not there, it’s never going to be there later on.

“These are very sensitive things, because they’ll say, ‘You’re giving up on a kid already.’ But what I’ve seen is that players who are 11, 12, 13 and are very helter-skelter in their base of skills, I haven’t come across a player who’s found those skills later on in my 40 years of coaching. So I have to go with what I’ve experienced. Now people who haven’t gone through that experience are hanging me from a tree.”

A problem in youth soccer is that the very young players who are endowed with physical strengths and mental aggressiveness are not allowed to refine technically and tactically, says Bobak, because they’re winning games with those attributes.

“We have players who have an incredible mental, physical strength, but their ability to handle the ball is choppy and inconsistent,” he says. “Our arena doesn’t allow the ball-handing to be refined because they relied so much on the mental and the physical, and our arena kept rewarding them. ‘Oh don’t worry about your skills out there because you’re getting the results we want you to get.’”

STRENGTH AND SPEED. Bobak is skeptical about the strength and conditioning coaches, and all fitness centers that promise to help kids become more agile, quicker, speedier, stronger.

"These centers profess they can make a major impact on these players, because obviously they want your money,” says Bobak, who cites a scale of measuring strength and speed from 0-50, and considers the 40-to-50 zone that of an elite athlete. “What they do, is they can add 5 steps. That’s the most that they can add in physical speed and strength. If you’re 30 on that scale and you’re adding 5, you’re at 35.

“Have you added to your speed? Yes. Are you in the competitive zone? No. Your speed has improved, so there’s merit to their work. But it’s a very small merit. If they were 33 in their strength, now they’re 38, but they’re not in the competitive zone.

“Let’s say they’re 40 in speed and 40 in strength. They’re in the competitive zone. They go to these people and they’re at 45. So they’re going against an athlete who’s 40, and that athlete doesn’t do that, obviously the one who did it is going to be 45 and the other one is at 40.

“But the information comes back to the layperson that there’s these miraculous changes out there, and the changes are only five steps.

“Well, I don’t recommend this at all for the girls out there ages 12, 13, 14, 15.

“What I’ve seen when they do that, these girls having private soccer coaching lessons, they have their own club coaches, they go to these centers, they go to these soccer camps, and what I see is girls at 16 burnt out of soccer. They’re burnt out. They don’t want to come to practice or games. They’re burnt out here in America. I see that over and over.

“Going to these centers when they’re young is nonsense. But these parents are driving them in car pools to these things. When they’re older, OK, start doing a little beginning sort of program.”

PRIORITIES CHANGE. On the mental side, as girls grow up, their focus on soccer can change and affect their play.

“The mental part when it comes to female soccer can change through the years because their interest in the sport of soccer changes a lot,” Bobak says. “When they’re engaged and very much interested and focused, there is that mental enthusiasm that they display because it’s sort of the primary thing they’re involved in. But when it becomes secondary and third-place, obviously the mental enthusiasm is not as big now.

“Sometimes you see that mental aspect in the female player change because there are other priorities in their lives and their activities start getting bigger.”

Their passion for the sport may also diminish if they’re being asked to do too much.

“In my case here, State Cup ends for these young ones end of February, beginning of March,” he says. “Our season starts the middle of July and it goes all the way to the middle of February. Non-stop besides two weeks for Christmas. When it comes to February, we have tryouts. All of March and all of April, I give them off. Parents are upset. Parents go beserk.

“The ego of the parents drives this whole female soccer phenomenon. ‘I want my daughter to be better. I want more. Give me more, give me more because I want to stick out my chest.’ That’s the mentality of the American culture.

“In May, we get together once a week, non-mandatory. And we play in two tournaments, non-mandatory in May, just to get a little bit of team chemistry with the new players. End of May, I give them another six weeks off and parents are going crazy. The kids, when they’re 17, 18, they come back to me and they thank me for those six weeks I gave them off when they were young. Because they’re so burned out.”

(Tad Bobak, the co-director of the So Cal Blues, was born in Rio de Janeiro in 1950. He spent the first 12 years of his life in Brazil and then lived in Europe for nine years before moving
in 1971 to California, where he started his coaching career in AYSO in 1972. He started coaching club soccer in 1974 and helped start, along with Marine Cano, the Cal-South Girls Olympic Development Program in 1982. Bobak coached girls ODP for 18 years. He also coached women’s amateur adult club soccer for 15 years, winning a USASA national title in 2002. In 1979, he volunteered to be the L.A. Aztecs' equipment manager so he could observe legendary Dutch coach Rinus Michels train the likes of Johan Cruyff. In 1986, Bobak coached Fram-Culver, which included future Hall of Famer Marcelo Balboa, to the McGuire Cup boys U-19 national title. Bobak also had stints as a men’s assistant coach at UCLA and men’s assistant coach at Cal State L.A., as well as the head women’s coach at UC Santa Barbara. Bobak co-founded the So Cal Blues with Larry Draluck in 1990. Bobak won US Youth Soccer girls national titles in 2000 (U-16) and 2007 (U-15).)

(Mike Woitalla, the executive editor of Soccer America, coaches youth soccer for East Bay United in Oakland, Calif. His youth soccer articles are archived at

5 comments about "Growing pains: Girls face challenge of the 'commotional' years".
  1. Warren Potash, September 8, 2011 at 9:41 p.m.

    I am very glad that a well respected soccer coach is advising parents with GREAT advice for their teen female soccer players.

    However, I know that teen (researchers say that 9 year olds should train) female athletes will benefit from BNP Training 9or other quality programs); i.e., stabilizing the teen female athlete's lower body to minimize her risk for injury and help her become faster, quicker, and stronger with safe and age-appropriate training to play sport(s). Since 1995, I have successfully trained more than 600 teen female athletes in everys port and cheering with remarkable results.

    Add this lower body training component to Tad Bobak's advice and teen female athletes can have FUN playing and becoming the best soccer player each can become.

  2. R2 Dad, September 9, 2011 at 1:10 p.m.

    Great article--especially like the repeated references to crazy/pompous parents pushing their daughters like psycho stage mothers.
    Most girls do not like 50-50 balls because they are not trained to fight for them like boys are. Having said that, the best girls I have seen in that regard are the ones that play for boys teams. They usually transition to girls teams in middleschool, but I would highly recommend that from a football perspective--if your daughter is willing to do it!
    The very high risk of ACL injury to girls is usually given lip service by coaches, especially high school coaches. These coaches have their high school teams practice every day of the week, without cross training, then wonder why their girls get injured.

  3. James Fredrickson, September 13, 2011 at 10:53 a.m.

    I completely disagree that players (male or female) cannot develop technical skills or mental toughness at later ages. Have we all forgotten that Michael Jordan was cut from his basketball team as a freshman? I have seen alot of players be on "B" and "C" teams as younger players and move up to the "A" teams and become leaders, both on and off the field. Kids mature both mentally and physically at different rates. If a kid wants to play, they need to have a place to play.

  4. James Fredrickson, September 13, 2011 at 10:55 a.m.

    I forgot to add, that comment is what I call "lazy coaching". Too many coaches either don't want to "develop" players, or don't know how.

    Clubs have their "A" licensed coaches working with the top teams, and the "D" license coaches working with "C" teams.

    It's not hard to pick the biggest, fastest and toughest players, and win a bunch of games. It's developing players that's hard, and takes time and work. Giving up on young players is lazy.


  5. clarence gaines, October 1, 2011 at 4:38 a.m.

    If a coach doesn't believe he can impact a kid's competitive character, he needs to stop coaching. This is an age old question, nature vs. nurture. Are players born inherently tough? Anson Dorrance doesn't believe so, and that's why "the competitive cauldron" is the number one component of his coaching philosophy.

    I understand where the author is coming from in stating his opinions on impacting "mental toughness" in players. I coach many sports, track being one of them. I tell every parent that I can make their kid faster, but not necessarily faster. I guess the same thing can be said about "mental aggressiveness," or the term I like to use, "competitive character." I think I can make a kid more aggressive, but not necessarily as aggressive in relationship to his teammates.

    My number one objective as a youth coach is to get the kids that I coach to play hard. Developing competitive character is one of the cornerstones of my coaching philosophy.

    Here are a few links that might help you in your coaching journey:

    "The Competitive Cauldron: Creating Intensity in Training:"

    11 Reasons Why You Should Create Your Own Competitive Cauldron:

    Vern Gambetta on Anson Dorrance:

    "How Karl Dewazien and Anson Dorrance Carried the GSA Force '89 Girls to the South Texas State Playoffs"

    "Bring Your 'A' Game:A Young Athlete's Guide to Mental Toughness:"

    "Competitive Cauldron Details:"

    I'm very interested in the author's thoughts on how age, puberty, and the maturation process affects the female athletes. Something I plan on researching and writing on.

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