Shannon MacMillan: A World Champ's View on Coaching Kids

Interview by Mike Woitalla

Shannon MacMillan, 1996 Olympic gold medalist and 1999 World Cup champion, is the Director of Club Operations of San Diego's Del Mar Carmel Valley Sharks, which she joined in 2009 after assistant coaching stints at her alma mater, the University of Portland, and UCLA. MacMillan, who scored 60 goals in 176 appearances for the USA, spoke with us about the joys and challenges of youth soccer in America.

What was your aim when you left college coaching to become a youth club director?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Youth soccer in San Diego is crazy. It’s such a business now. Kids being recruited, treating kids like little professionals. When I got the call, I said, “If I’m going to do this, it will about the kids and not the results. It has to be about the kids’ development.” They believed in my vision.

How much is recruiting a part of youth soccer?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Some clubs in this area recruit players at U-9 and U-10. They promise them the world. “We’re going to get you in college … We’re going to get you on the national team.” You don’t even know if they’re going to like soccer in five years.

What drives coaches to recruit players at so young an age?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: They put too much emphasis on results. They say we win all these championship, we get so many kids into college -- some parents get caught up in it and say I want that for my kid. But no college coach asks, “Did you win a State Cup at U-9?”

What should be the emphasis at those young ages?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Let’s teach these kids how to be good sports, how to be confident, how to believe in themselves, how to work with teammates, and teach them some life lessons, while teaching the basic foundations of soccer, so they fall in love with the game and will want to play through the difficult times down the road.

What’s your advice to coaches at the younger ages?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: It’s really important at the younger ages not to play kickball, not to just look for the biggest, strongest kids who can kick it the farthest. Let’s lose some games while we’re trying to keep possession and play out of the back. Let’s lose some games while creating center backs who have the confidence to turn and play it to the keeper to release pressure.

Maybe we’re going to make a mistake and get scored on, they’re learning the right way to play and will be ready when we go to 11-a-side.

If they learn the game the right way the chances are higher that they’ll find success later. When they start getting to U-15, and they’re still playing and they’re highly competitive, they have the potential to play in college.

What do you enjoy most about coaching?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: When you’re teaching the players something and you see the light go on. Whether it’s in training or the game, and they’re trying something they haven’t quite gotten, and it clicks for them, and it happens, and they look over at you with a big smile that says, “I got it now!” That’s awesome to see.

I put a big emphasis on my girls just enjoying the game. It makes me happy when they have a smile on their face and they’re not afraid to make a mistake.

What’s the most difficult part of coaching?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Reining in the expectations of the parents. Do we need private lessons? How do we do this? How do we do that?

Your kid’s 9. Let them just play. Let them just relax and enjoy the game. When the kid gets in the car, just say, “I enjoyed watching you today!”

Don’t critique them. Don’t wear them out. Don’t have them do three or four private lessons on top of training. Let them be kids.

What do you expect from your club’s coaches in dealing with parents?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: I stress to my coaches to over-communicate with parents, because the more you communicate, the less you’re going to hear from them.

If you’re going into a tournament, send a quick e-mail: We’re focusing on finishing, so my focus this weekend will be on how can we create more opportunities and how can we finish them.

Or explain, we worked on defending and not diving in all week. And then send an e-mail at the end of the weekend, “I thought we did X, Y and Z well, but this was a weakness so we’re going to work on that.”

Include parents in your thought process and they’ll understand what’s happening while they’re on the sideline and be more likely to sit back and enjoy it.

I also make sure they make time for evaluations and sit down with the families.

Any “rules” for parents?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: We have a 24-hour rule. Don’t approach a coach right after the game in the heat of the moment.

Do girls and boys require different coaching methods?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Yes and no. As long as you have an understanding for the game and you find a unique trait that you can draw out of each kid individually, what works best for them, it doesn’t matter if it’s a boy or a girl.

If you’re a yeller and screamer, you’re probably not going to be a good fit for most teams, but especially not for a girls team.

To be a good coach, whether it’s boys or girls, you must know how to teach each kid. This kid needs to be pushed a bit. This kid needs to become more confident. Figuring out how to reach each kid individually because they are different.

Do you think youth soccer needs more female coaches?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Players need coaches who know the game, can teach the game, and also know how to be a people person.

I’m always eager to hire female coaches but there are just not that many out there.

I think of all the great female players who have come through the system in the U.S., the opportunities that soccer has afforded them, to not give back to the sport or not have the desire to, I think it’s a shame.

I wish there were more out there because I think women can be great coaches, whether it’s a boys or girls team, or youth team, college or professional team.

Do you think that it’s harder for women to get opportunities?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: I know that when I got into coaching I was sometimes told I didn’t have experience, even though I played 176 times for the U.S. national team.

I firmly believe if you are a male and you have an accent, and you say you played for an English Premier League team -- even just for a youth team that’s tied to big club -- the doors are going to open more easily.

Are there things some of your coaches did, when you were a player, that you avoid as a coach?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: Plenty. I learned a lot of what I wouldn’t do. I’m not a yeller or a screamer. The majority of the game you’ll find me in a chair. It’s not that I’m not coaching, but I don’t want robots out there. I don’t want one of my players to receive the ball and say, “Pass to so-and-so.” I want my kids to think for themselves, and I’ve had coaches trying to have little puppets out there and dictate every move.

Do you have an example of how one of your former coaches influenced your own coaching philosophy?
SHANNON MACMILLAN: My coach at the University of Portland was Clive Charles. From the day I stepped on to that campus he cared about me as a person first and foremost -- and it made me want to run through a brick wall for that man.

10 comments about "Shannon MacMillan: A World Champ's View on Coaching Kids ".
  1. Kent James, August 8, 2014 at 9:13 a.m.

    Wise advice from a classy player.

  2. Philip Carragher, August 8, 2014 at 9:25 a.m.

    Great article and best of luck to Coach Shannon.

  3. Kent Pothast, August 8, 2014 at 12:51 p.m.

    Shannon and Tiffeny Milbret played for Clive Charles at same time and He commented that working with them was totally different. One needed gentle care and the other "not so much". He said that there is no formula to handle all players.

  4. Allan Lindh, August 8, 2014 at 1:21 p.m.

    A classy lady, and wow could she strike the ball.

  5. James Madison, August 8, 2014 at 1:51 p.m.

    Good stuff! Her mention of sitting ina chair reminds me of a story I regularly use in coaching clinics. It's about a yeller of a college coach whose players eventually told him they had bought a rocking chair for him and, if he wanted them to continue playing for him, he would sit in it at matches. As a referee, I later encountered him sitting in his rocking chair.

  6. John Soares, August 8, 2014 at 3:59 p.m.

    Before there was Beckham, There was "Mac". Good advice/article as well!

  7. Santiago 1314, August 9, 2014 at 9:10 a.m.

    And Shannon is Not coaching our U-20 Because??? Probably because she is not in the "Cookies Cutter" Mentality... She wasn't as a Player or Now, as a Coach... Granted, There were many a game, where I wanted to throw the Remote at the TV, because she was "OFF", But I would much rather see 100 Shannon's, Jenning's-Gabarra, Lilly, Hamm, etc.. etc.. Than watch the Poor Players that are Being introduced into the USWNT... This may be our last Generation of Golden Players... We will soon be "Pulling A Brazil"(men) as we lunch a committee to study what has happened to the once Dominant USWNT...

  8. Tony Pizzaro, August 12, 2014 at 8:53 a.m.

    I'd agree 100% on 90% of what Shannon says. I think it funny about the English accents, I just said the same thing at the last tournament, I think a boat load came over from England because every other field I walked by I could hear the coaches English accent. It's hard to watch some games and watch kids make the same mistakes over and over again while the coaches sits and look like mutes in the sidelines. I don't believe everything that is pushed at me at clinics and seminars. When you combine your playing experience with what you learn in your classes, I think you get a well rounded coach. Coaching plays such an important part in kids life and anyone who played youth sports knows it and can remember the most hurtful thing a coach said and the most aspiring, as well. We get these weekend warrior parent on the sideline sometime and it sounds like a boxing match out there. I happen to be very voice-tress on the sidelines and it has always helped my teams. I find myself towards the end of the seasons directing them less and less, until the next year, when before I say anything there moving in space quicker then I can open my mouth, after they pass. It a shame that soccer is starting to turn into such a business because parents are spending thousands on camps and training sessions that could be performed in there backyard. Shannon's era is when soccer really started to get appreciated here and Her along with her teammates were such a big part of it. When Chastain hit that penalty kick in 99, I don't know that I've ever seen a better soccer game, let alone womens soccer game to this day. They left it all out there. I thank Shannon, Mia Hamm and all there teammates for what they did especially for girls soccer in the US today because if it wasn't for them we would not have the stage set as it is today. Greatness comes at a very young age so as you develop you don't think about locking your ankle or looking over your shoulder, it comes naturally. Were still far behind International soccer and it's evident when your watch the European tour games. The little things mean so much in a soccer game like making the simple pass 8 yards away instead of forcing a 20 yard pass or keeping the play on the edges instead of forcing it inside. At 48, I'm a student of the game and always will be and the kids turn out to be the best teachers at times...

  9. Angela vine, August 13, 2014 at 5:37 p.m.

    Excellent and totally admirable pov.

  10. Kerri Dryden, September 3, 2014 at 11:15 p.m.

    Having played against Shannon in college ( man was she fast!) and briefly on the Youth National Team, I am so glad she mentioned Clive Charles. He was an awesome person and coach. So glad to hear she still has it right!
    I'm currently the only female coach I know in Missouri coaching a top boy's u-13 club team. I'm amazed sometimes at the amount of boys wanting to get onto our team. I kind of feel that because I've been there/done that... I no longer have anything "to prove." I let the players grow and play and learn without being the focal point. The players trust me and know that I am there for them on or off the field. I am very straight forward and truthful with them. I am constantly sharing my thoughts with the parents and have no problem disagreeing with any of them. A dad the other day called me "my son's sport's mom." It is a big time commitment and I have to hire a sitter during practice for my little one, but it still gives me goose bumps when a player tries something we did at practice. We'll see how long I keep coaching. The other day for our team photo the photographer told me I need to stand on a box. They are all taller then me! And smellier! HA!

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